How to Get What You Want by Asking Nicely

The Power of a Good Question

A well-crafted question can turn a simple request into a meaningful conversation. Here's how to ask nicely:

Be Specific. Instead of saying "I need a computer," say "Can you help me get a computer?"
Use Open-ended Questions. Ask questions that invite answers, like "What would you recommend?" instead of "Do you recommend something?"
Show Interest. Show genuine curiosity about what the other person is doing or feeling. For example, "Are you excited about this new project?"
Respect Boundaries. If someone says no, respect their answer and don't press further. It shows maturity and consideration.
Ask Follow-up Questions. If they say yes, ask, "What should I do next?" to show you're engaged and eager to learn.

"I'd like to know more about your experience working with new teams."

This is polite, shows interest, and invites a detailed response without sounding demanding.

Nice questions build trust and create a positive impression. They also allow others to share their expertise and perspective.

Keep questions open-ended rather than closed (e.g., "What do you think?" vs. "Do you think we should do X?")
Use your own words—don't copy phrases from other people.
Remember that asking doesn't mean you're lazy. It's a skill that improves with practice.

So, the next time you need to ask something, remember: ask nicely, listen carefully, and let the conversation flow naturally.